Strategies Of Domestic Violence
Compare Your Experience With This List Of Abusive Behaviors. If These Strategies Are Part Of Your Life, You Are A Victim Of
Domestic Violence!!
PHYSICAL ABUSE
- Threatens to hurt or kill you or your family
- Pushes or shoves
- Holds you to keep you from leaving
- Kicks or chokes
- Hits, slaps or punches
- Throws objects at you
- Locks you out of the house
- Abandons you in dangerous places
- Refuses to help you when you are sick, injured or pregnant
- Subjects you to reckless driving
- Rapes or coerces you sexually
- Threatens to hurt you with a weapon
- Abuses your pets
- Breaks furniture, belongings, personal effects
SEXUAL ABUSE
- Harasses you about imagined affairs
- Tells anti-women jokes
- Treats women as sex objects
- Is jealous and assumes you will have sex with any available person
- Insists that you dress in a more sexual way than you want
- Minimized the importance of your feelings about sex
- Criticizes you sexually
- Insists on unwanted or uncomfortable touching
- Withholds sex and affection
- Calls you sexual names like "whore" or "frigid"
- Forces you to undress when you don't want to
- Publicly shows sexual interest in other women
- Has affairs after agreeing to a monogamous relationship
- Forces particular unwanted sexual acts
- Forces sex when you are sick or when it is a danger to your health
- Forces sex for the purpose of hurting you with objects or weapons
- Commits sadistic sexual acts
- Tells you about affairs
- Rapes you or coerces you sexually
EMOTIONAL ABUSE
- Ignores your feelings
- Ridicules or insults women as a group
- Ridicules or insults you most valued beliefs, your religion, race, heritage or class
- Withholds approval, appreciation or affection as punishment
- Continually criticizes you, calls you names, shouts at you
- Humiliates you
- Regularly threatens to leave or tells you to leave
- Punishes or deprives the children when angry at you
- Threatens to kidnap the children if you leave
- Manipulates with lies and contradictions
- Keeps you on an emotional roller coaster
- Continually finds fault with what you do and how you do it
- Tells you you're stupid, incapable, inadequate
- Tells the children what a bad mother you are
- Tells you you're too fat or too thin
- Disallows any success and good feelings
SOCIAL ISOLATION
- Doesn't allow contact with family
- Doesn't allow you to have your own friends
- If allowed friends, punishes you for having them, calls them names, questions, accuses, picks at you until you stop the
relationship
- Suggests or demands a physical move away from a geographic location familiar or safe to you
- "Mutual" friends are abusers/victims or chemically dependent
- Keeps you prisoner in your own home
- You live on the abuser's time clock; you're where the abuser wants when the abuser wants you there
- Refuses to socialize with you or take you anywhere
- Denies you access to the car
FINANCIAL DEPENDENCY
- Keeps you pregnant
- Keeps you and the family in debt
- Keeps you from working
- If your employed, causes trouble at work; tries to get you fired
- Keeps you underemployed or working a a job you dislike
- Controls money or resources; everything is in the abuser's name
- Refuses to work or share money
- Makes you ask for money
Compare Your Experience With This List Of Abusive Behaviors. If These Strategies Are Part Of Your Life, You Are A Victim Of
Domestic Violence!!
