Questions To Ask Yourself About A Date...
- Are they willing to spend time alone, even if they'd like to be with you?
- Are they glad you have other friends?
- Are they pleased at your accomplishments and ambitions?
- Do they think both sexes should be wise, worldly, confident and independent?
- Do they ask your opinion?
- Do they both listen and talk?
- Do they tell you when their feelings are hurt?
- Do they think it is OK for both sexes to show that they are weak or vulnerable and to cry sometimes -- aside from right after
they have been mean or abused you?
- Are they able to express affection aside from the times they are sorry for abusing you or when they want something from you?
- Are there some special traits about women that they admire?
- Do they have good friends?
- Do they have interests besides you?
- When angry, do they break or throw things?
- Do they lose their temper suddenly over small things, especially when they do not perform as well as they'd like?
- Do they want to know where you have been when you have been out?
- If you stay out late, do they insist on an explanation?
- Do they think that there are any circumstances in which it is OK to hit?
- Are they jealous of your friends or relatives?
- Do they think you are with another man/woman if you are not home when they call?
- Do they think that you are going to cheat on them if you talk to or dance with an old friend?
- Do they especially want boy babies and associate fathering with masculinity?
- When they are hurt, do they act angry instead?
- Do they silently sulk when angry?
- Do they ridicule you or call you names?
- Do they object to protecting you from possible STDs?
(Comment from ComputerBob: It is important to get to know someone for a long time before you even think of getting serious
with them, because abusers can be polite and charming for several months at a time to convince their dates that they are OK.)
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